One of the hardest things that some people ever do is transform themselves from a person full of self-doubt to a self-assured person that believes in themselves.

The truth is that no matter where you are in life right now, no matter how many mistakes you’ve made, opportunities you’ve passed up, or what’s happened to you in life, you can overcome your self-doubt and start believing in yourself.

This is true even if you had a poor upbringing and even if you’ve never believed in yourself before. It’s within your power, and it will change your life completely.

So, congratulations on finding this page and reading it, soaking it in, and implementing the suggestions. Once you do, within just a short period of time you’ll start feeling better about yourself, feel more confident, successful and know that your future is bright.

Let’s get started learning how you can overcome self-doubt and believe in yourself.

What Is Self-Doubt?

The dictionary defines self-doubt as, “the lack of confidence in oneself and one’s abilities”. This is a very good definition, but it doesn’t fully demonstrate the problems caused by self-doubt and not believing in yourself. 

Think about these questions:

  • What are the dangers of self-doubt?
  • How does self-doubt affect your life?
  • Where does self-doubt come from?
  • And most importantly, how do you overcome it?

You’ll find the answers to all these questions and more below. If it helps, take notes as you read through when you notice issues that resonate most with your current situation. Everyone has different issues, reasons for their self-doubt, and problems in their life. You’re a unique person and there is no one-size-fits-all answer.

The Dangers of Self-Doubt and How It Affects Your Life

There are many dangers inherent in hanging on to self-doubt that you should be aware of. If you suffer from self-doubt, it’s important to understand the type of damage you’re doing to yourself if you continue to hang on to it. It has affected your past, is affecting your present and can devastate your future if you don’t deal with it. Here’s why.

Self-Doubt Damages Motivation

When you don’t think you can do much and don’t trust yourself to do something right, fear can get in the way of doing anything. This can turn into a severe lack of motivation to do more than you have to, just to get by. It can affect your entire life. This is because you may have fewer satisfying relationships, a job you hate, and not enjoy life much.

Self-Doubt Causes Procrastination

If you don’t think you know how to do things “right” then you may end up thinking you’re a perfectionist. This is just a way to procrastinate and never finish anything or finish it at the last minute. This is how you set yourself up for failure. No one is perfect and perfection is not necessary to thrive in this life.

Self-Doubt Leads to Regret

When you miss opportunities, you will experience regret. Regret, when left unresolved, can lead to chronic stress and anxiety. This will then build upon itself to create even more self-doubt, which will create more regret, and so on.

Self-Doubt Causes Defeatism

If you allow self-doubt to continue, you can start to become almost morbid in your belief that you cannot experience anything good or happy. It’s essentially an acceptance of failure.

Self-Doubt Stunts Self-Improvement

When you have no faith in yourself, it’s hard to even think about self-improvement. You think you have too much to improve because you can’t do anything. Maybe you even think you’re a victim of your circumstances? To a point that you cannot achieve even if you try.

Self-Doubt Stifles Inspiration

When you don’t believe in yourself, it’s hard to get inspired to do anything new or to create anything new. Ending the self-doubt will bring out the creativity you already really have.

As you can see and may have experienced yourself, self-doubt can be dangerous. These are all good reasons on their own to work toward overcoming self-doubt and learning to believe in yourself.

How to Identify Where Your Self-Doubt Lies

Knowing how you developed self-doubt can often help you to recover from it. This is because you can build self-esteem by getting to the bottom of how it happened.

No matter how you determine what causes your self-doubt, you’ll be able to overcome it. It doesn’t matter if it’s something that developed over time or something you learned in childhood. You can work toward building your belief in yourself so that you can overcome self-doubt.

Limiting Beliefs Learned in Childhood

Unfortunately, many people learn to put off their dreams and limit their ideas. Sometimes, due to well-meaning parents. Or sometimes they’re not so well-meaning but perhaps abusive parents. Who are also stuck in their own self-doubting lives and cannot ever envision anything different. This happens a lot in communities where people are often born very poor and end up lacking experiences and education. To see beyond their own lives to the possibilities that are outside their world.

It’s not usually the fact that parents want to keep their kids from dreaming; they’re just trying to be realistic. When their child tells them about their dream to travel the world and become a writer, they react in fear. They make statements that may be statistically true but that limit their child.

For example, they might discourage their child from becoming a writer by telling them no one makes money writing. Or they might discourage their child from becoming anything that is above what they’re used to due to the fear of the costs. Or the fear that their child really can’t do it even if they try. But this is only due to their own lack of success and understanding of life.

This rubs off on the kids. That’s why statistically most people do not break out of the class they were born to. The exciting thing to remember, though, is that some people do. The reason they do is because they were able to see and envision the possibilities and then take the action to see it through.

Past Experiences from Bad Relationships

If you used to have a good self-image and didn’t suffer from much self-doubt. Then suddenly or over time started to develop self-doubt. It’s possible that you allowed your past experiences and bad relationships to get into your head. Thus creating this self-doubting experience.

It can be a parent relationship, a friendship, a love interest, a spouse, even a child who is dragging you down. Creating the self-doubt in your life. These relationships are sometimes defined as toxic relationships. Unfortunately, a toxic relationship can involve any type of relationship.

Have you been in a relationship where a person criticises and cuts down your ideas? Or tells you that it’s impossible? Or tells you about all that can go wrong or is even abusive to you about your ideas? You may have learned your self-doubt from these past relationships. If you are still in any of these relationships, it may be time to end it. If you cannot explain to the person that you are going to do what you’re going to do, regardless of their opinion, due to fear of abuse.

Bad Work Environments and Experiences

At some point in your life, if you had a job of any kind that turned into a bad experience (especially if it started with your first job), this can stunt you for a lifetime if you let it. Sadly, many people, especially those who take service-oriented jobs or lower paying jobs, end up with bad experiences.

Even some people who have higher paying jobs can allow criticism to affect them so badly that they develop a fear of failure. This causes them to not take risks. In turn, this ends up causing them to get bad job reviews. Then after a bad job review, the person may react badly to that and end up more stuck.

As you can see, this path can end up affecting a person badly at the time and in their future if they are unable to understand that sometimes things happen to good people. They can’t accept that they’re a good person and a bad thing happened to them. Or they can’t learn from their mistakes and realise that they can do better next time. This is a dangerous pattern that can grow and become more than it should.

Lack of Life Experiences

Sometimes a person can suffer from self-doubt simply due to a lack of experience. If you were overly sheltered in childhood, were sick, or had issues that caused you to not have a lot of experiences in life. That can turn into fear, anxiety, and even other problems such as agoraphobia. This will prevent you from stepping out of your comfort zone. If you have no successful experiences to look back on, it can be hard to imagine success. If you have only experienced failure, it can be doubly hard to envision success later.

Whatever the reason for these experiences: overprotective parents, an illness, undiagnosed mental illness, being super-shy? Whatever is causing it needs to be addressed. This is so that you can start experiencing small successes and know what it feels like. If you don’t know what that feels like, it’s going to be hard to move forward.

Where You Live

This can be hard to accept for some people. Where you are born makes a huge difference in how you view the world. How you view your own place and potential in it. If you’re born on third base, you can still experience self-doubt if you have controlling parents who see only one way that you can have success. Such as following in the family business when you don’t want to. Most of the time though it’s because you were born either in a place without a lot of opportunities. Or you were born to parents who, while loving, are poor.

The sad fact is that most people do not escape the situation they were born into today. But, that doesn’t mean you can’t. It just means that due to lack of vision, most people only know what’s inside their own small portion of the world. They don’t have their eyes open to the possibilities out there for them.

Just by reading this, no matter what your situation is, you are getting your eyes opened to the possibilities in the world. To escape your circumstances and make the most of your life in a way that makes you thrive. That’s a great thing and can make so much difference.

Undiagnosed Anxiety

Anxiety can actually be a symptom of self-doubt, but it goes in a circle. Self-doubt can cause anxiety. If you can find a way to address the anxiety, you may be able to lessen the effects of your self-doubt. Many people who have anxiety describe it as a bad feeling of a million butterflies in their stomachs. Whenever they think of doing something that makes them uncomfortable.

Often, this feeling is so bad that the person suffers from panic attacks, which can be debilitating. Some people don’t get the panic attacks. They don’t push themselves beyond that feeling of butterflies that they experience as unpleasant. There is a theory that adrenaline junkies see this same feeling as positive and they seek it out. Whereas a person with anxiety uses that same feeling to stop doing anything that causes that feeling. Interesting, isn’t it?

If you suspect that you have anxiety, it can be hard to even get the help you need. For example going to your doctor to discuss it with them. This is because that also makes you anxious. You fear they’ll think you’re silly. But you can get help with your anxiety by seeking help from your doctor.

Some anxiety is caused by vitamin deficiencies. Your doctor will likely perform some blood tests. They may also recommend you see a psychiatrist who can prescribe medications. This would be to help you (at least on a temporary basis) so that you can start experiencing success. Instead of being blocked from it.

It’s important not to allow this to cause you to stay stuck in your current patterns. The healthiest people seek help. Even if you don’t want to take medications, there is help for you to overcome anxiety disorders naturally too.

Established Patterns

Often people experience self-doubt simply due to patterns they’ve established since childhood. Or, in some place in adulthood, that sent them down a bad path of experiencing failure or even something traumatic.

For example, everything could have been going fine, then something traumatic happened. A car accident, a death in the family, and so forth. This may start leading you down a path of repeating bad patterns. Or accepting that your life is just going to be full of failure. You won’t go anywhere! However, this is something you can overcome by changing your patterns.

The process requires that you are introspective enough to be able to see the truth about yourself. Your choices, your relationships, and more about your life. You’ll need to be able to take decisive action that will help you start to experience success in your life. You can build on this as you overcome your self-doubt and start believing in yourself. Even now, there are so many reasons that you should believe in yourself. Once you start realizing that, this part should be simple.

Continue reading:

Self doubt – Reasons to believe in yourself.

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